Most parents are of the opinion that their children are beautiful. As a parent, it can be difficult to realize that your child doesn’t feel the same way about themselves sometimes. Nearly all teens have negative feelings about the appearance of their face and body at some point during adolescence. Most of these insecurities pass, but if your child has expressed a desire to change the appearance of his or her nose through a nose job (more properly called a rhinoplasty), it’s important not to dismiss the idea from the outset. There are many factors to consider when discussing rhinoplasty with your teen. Here are some discussions you can have with your child to help you come to a decision as a family.
Don’t discuss yet! Just listen!
Before you jump in with your questions and concerns, listen to what your teen has to say. Don’t be judgmental or make any negative comments as doing so could make your child more insecure and less likely to come to you with issues. By listening, you open the door to better communication, and your teen will be more likely to show you respect.
How long has your teen complained about the appearance of their nose? Years? Months? Weeks? Perhaps this is the first you’ve heard about it. In any case, it’s important to communicate to your teen that rhinoplasty is major surgery that should be carefully researched and considered. Encourage them to do some research on the risks, benefits, and options on their own and discuss their findings with you.
Age & maturity
Age is an important factor for teens considering rhinoplasty. The nose does not mature until around age 15 or 16 for girls, and 17 or 18 for boys. If you have a younger teen interested in rhinoplasty, explain these issues and propose to open discussions again in a few years.
Maturity should also play a role in the decision. Many 16-year-olds are still quite immature, while some are more independent and ready to make important decisions. Discuss the financial realities of rhinoplasty with your teen. You might consider having your teen help with the costs through doing extra work around the house or getting a part-time job. There is also some discomfort with the surgery. Your teen needs to be able to tolerate the discomfort. Pain medication works fine, but anxiety can counter some of the affects.
Always keep in mind how severely your child’s nose is affecting his or her self esteem. It’s important not to take insecurities lightly. Encourage your daughter or son to be open about how deeply these issues affect them. You also want to make sure that your teen is seeking rhinoplasty for personal reasons, and not due to peer pressure to look a certain way.
If you and your teen would like to learn more about rhinoplasty, setting up a few consultations together is a great idea. You’ll get the opportunity to ask questions together, get an idea of what changes would be made, and learn more about candidacy, costs, risks, and benefits. Dr. Bentkover specializes in rhinoplasty, with offices in Worcester, and Stoneham, Massachusetts. When you’re ready to learn more about teen rhinoplasty, contact Dr. Bentkover at (508) 363-6500 in Worcester or (617) 247-0033 in Stoneham for more information.